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Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) describes the things people can use to let their voice be heard. Just driving along a road, we recognise the signs giving us instructions. Even most non drivers know what they mean and we can talk about those things to others.
But what if we don’t have the ability to say what we want in the traditional way, using our own voices and replying instantly?
Imagine if you lived in a world where people couldn’t understand what you wanted to say. How frustrating would that be?
ACC helps people to communicate with each other. Some people may take longer to get their point across, or need to use pictures, symbols or technology to say what is in their heads, but we all deserve the extra time it takes for them to be able to say it.
My own special needs son often uses pictures and symbols to describe his emotions as he can’t put them into words. When he goes to respite and there are more physically disabled children, I’ve seen him use sign language to communicate with them. It’s a lovely thing to see.
AAC helps people recognise the signs an symbols of life, even simple things like pictures, hand gestures, pictures and the vast amount of technology on the market today. What works for one person may not necessarily work for another, but they all allow people to share those common goals of understanding and being understood.
The NHS wants to increase knowledge by the public of how 0.5% of our population can be better helped to let their voice be heard. I think it’s an important thing for us all to be aware of. Just a little patience and understanding could mean so much to someone who needs a little extra help to get their opinions across.
It’s difficult to put some of this into words, so I’ve added a couple of videos from the Now Hear Me campaign that explain it much better than I ever could.
Listen to Gavid Drysdale talk about using ACC and vocal aids to lead a full life.
Watch Rachel Monk and how her friends and education have grown with the assistance of ACC.
This is the advice from the ACC on what we can do to help and listen.
What can you do?
Recognise that a right to ‘speak’ and be ‘heard’ is a fundamental human right, whether through verbal speech, gesture, signing, picture board or high tech device. Communicating is a fundamental piece of who we are and everyone deserves to be given the time and space to do it.
Recognise that everybody is different and that we all communicate in a variety of ways. AAC is not a single tool or approach that will help everybody. There is a range, and people who use AAC want others to support them to communicate in the way they find most effective.
People who use AAC need you to be patient. Try to make sure you give people using AAC extra time to get their message across even though this can sometimes feel uncomfortable for you. It is ok to say that you would like to check that you have understood a person’s message by asking them a few questions.
Address the person, not their carer or anyone else who might be with them.
Remember communication is a two way process. It involves information going in two directions – both being expressed and understood. Sometimes people who use AAC to express themselves might have difficulties understanding what you say to them – for example if they have problems with their hearing or interaction skills. It is important to not make assumptions and to ask the person what works best for them to help them communicate with you.
Find out more with the NHS.
Written in collaboration with the NHS for the Now Hear Me Campaign.
It’s the little things that count, right? Of course they do.
I have two parents with vascular dementia, both very likely brought on by strokes. Both affected very differently and both with different levels of needs on any particular day. My dad, in particular is very mistrustful of people, and finds new people very difficult to live with, yet he is in the lucky position of having a lady friend who visits him often and takes him out and about.
My mother lives with us, and while she has her own wee flat in our house, with an area for her lounge, bedroom and a bathroom, she’s become introverted, not wanting to go out or meet anyone at all. That’s not ideal.
Their support networks are very different indeed.
Good Support for my dad.
In Fife, My dad needed a hospital stay as he lived alone, about a hundred miles from us. There was nobody around him to visit, make meals or help him around the house. He found himself trapped and away from his home, tucked into a mental health hospital on a geriatric ward, despite being able to get out and about if needed. He is quite feisty and vocal about what he wants, which led to regular meetings and plans for his future decided between social work and health professionals.
He tried going home with carers coming in to cook his meals and help him take his tablets. It was a disaster as by that time, he was so used to the company, that he couldn’t cope and was back in hospital within a few days. The hospital was soul destroying as his room held nothing but a bed and a wardrobe. He had nothing personal, no TV, no outings and it was difficult for his lady friend to visit. She needed to travel for four hours, to only see him for one hour on each visit.
When I decided to dig my heels in about removing him from the hospital and put him into a nursing home, social work (with support of the doctors) had funding in place and transferred him to a home he chose within a fortnight.
The funding assessment will be done over the next couple of months but hasn’t stopped his help appearing almost instantly. We’re still left with the headache of what to do with the house he part shares with a residential association but that’s neither here nor there. It will be a pain, but at least he’s somewhere with his own things around him and close to his lady friend, which is all he wants in life.
Bad Support for my mum.
My mum has a ready-made built-in carer. Living in our house, albeit independently, I am seen as a ready-made carer whether I want to be or not, so she’s had nothing in the way of outside help at all. It doesn’t help that she’s the type of woman who never complains about anything and just muddles through with us for help. Even a year post diagnosis, we have still not been assessed by social work for any care she or we as a family might be entitled to, and that’s not without pushing buttons, asking the right people and more.
Being a sandwich carer is a challenge. I have three kids, one of which regularly enters respite to give us a break, but caring for mum is ongoing too. She’s finding it more and more difficult to do daily tasks, even to the point of showering, which she can just about manage if someone is in the room, to make sure she doesn’t fall. She turns her frustration on not remembering things onto herself and wants to hide in her wee flat twenty-four seven. Her care needs are only going to increase, not decrease. She gets stressed at the thought of moving anywhere else and I just can’t put her into a home when she could easily be looked after here if someone gave me a little help long-term.
The problem is, that it’s two different budgets apparently. I don’t know how true it is, but I’m also told that they find it difficult to find carers who would come to where we live so that she could get help with showering and dressing. She also puts on a brave face and slips into past things to talk about, which makes them think she’s more able than she is. Don’t ever underestimate someone with dementia. They can fool people who are not experienced in the field into thinking they’re more capable than they are quite easily.
So, where we are we now, a year down the line, is without an assessment of need done for her, without future prospect of care unless I consider putting her into a home (my understanding which could be wrong) and we are well and truly trapped in the house as she can’t be left alone for any significant length of time with her diabetes. That means the man is taking the kids away on his own this year. I can’t go anywhere as nobody else is confident in managing her insulin and sugar levels, and the man isn’t keen on helping her wash and dress. She wouldn’t be happy with him doing it either. It’s a little thing called dignity, not having a man see her naked, even if he would simply be helping.
There are personality changes too. From a woman who for decades, has always told me off and my own kids for feeding the dog scraps at the table, it’s gone full circle. When my brother’s dog needs babysat, he sneaks under the table to her feet and she surreptitiously slides pieces of food off her plate and slips it to the dog. The dog is ecstatic of course and the kids highly bemused, though they do struggle on occasion when she’s asked them the same question ten times in half an hour.
What Do We Do?
Not much to be honest. What else can we do. The man has to give up time in his day when I visit my dad to help sort out his messes as my mum can’t be left all day alone, and we’ve found pinning notes around the house help her to not keep having to ask if it’s morning or night etc. We have a note on the front door to remind her to lock it when she opens it to have a look down the street, which she does fairly often. We were finding the door constantly unlocked, and just a wee note means she sees it every time she closes the door again, and instantly locks it. Job done.
It’s all about dignity and what we can give them. My mum is insular and happy to stay in her own space, but my dad wants the freedom to go out and about. I have to remind myself that when she acts like a child, it’s not personal, but I do miss my mum, the person I used to chat to more than anyone else in the world. That person is gone now, and the one left in her place is still funny at times, can still tell great stories of her youth and feels sad at the loss of her independence.
I wish I could get her out of the house more, but the only activity days scheme that would have worked has had to reduce its service due to funding cuts. The waiting list is so long that it’s likely she’ll have passed on before she gets to the top of the list. I’m quite sad at how little there is out there for her to do unless she’s put into a home.
The constant care part of it all makes me really rethink my own future life and care plan if I make it to be a senior citizen requiring assistance. I know I won’t live with any of my own boys, but I also wouldn’t want them to have to live with me and lose out on their own futures.
In the meantime, somehow, I have to find carers to pick up some of the work for the future. If I get it in place over the next year, hopefully it’s done and we have it when she really begins to struggle even going to the toilet, and yes, it’s going to be tough going, but I’m trying. I just don’t think my trying is good enough though, as she often seems so sad.
I don’t expect comments, so don’t feel obliged to leave one. Today is my birthday and perhaps that’s what’s making me take stock, looking at another year of caring in the home for someone who is deteriorating weekly.
Today, I feel selfish, so I don’t plan celebrating, but I do have to get control of my life and the rubbish food I punish myself with when I’m stressed. I must work to get my confidence back. It seems to have taken one gigantic knock recently and I feel so rubbish at everything I do.
I just wanted to put this out there, it’s cathartic to write our struggles, even if nobody reads them. Sorry if you’re looking for food and found one of my personal posts. I know I don’t post heartfelt posts often these days, but hey, it’s a doozy when I do.
Take care all, enjoy your Easter weekends and happy egg hunting.
If you’re affected by dementia in any way and wish to know more, visit the NHS as a starting point.
Pickled onions are pungent. This recipe won’t suit everyone, but if you like a tangy taste, give it a go. How tangy you want pickled onions soup, depends on the vinegar the onions you pick have been pickled in. The stronger the vinegar, the more pungent the soup. Sweet vinegar will give a vegetable soup that tastes like most others, but the celery helps give it some bite.
150g Small Pickled Onions (Drained. Use Sweet Vinegar if possible, for a less tangy taste.)
150g Celery (Chopped and Sliced)
150g Potatoes (Cubed)
150g Carrots (Sliced)
800ml Vegetable Stock
1 tablespoon Olive Oil
Salt & Pepper (To Taste)
NOTE
Makes 1.6 Litres
METHOD
Step 1.
Lightly saute the pickled onions in some olive oil. The goal is to release the pickled onion taste, without the onions becoming brown or overcooked.
Step 2.
Add all the ingredients into your soupmaker and choose the chunky setting.
Step 3.
Serve chunky, or blend if you prefer your soup smooth, but the tangy oniony taste that you can get with the chunky version will fade into the other vegetables when they’re pureed.
I have what I guess is likely to be a milder form of Tinnitus, but it’s still there all the time. For every second of every day, it keeps me company through thick and thin.
My tinnitus is like that of 1 minute 44 on the video below, with just a higher pitch. It used to be combined with the heart pulse noise immediately after that, but after suffering with it for two years, the pulsing tinnitus has eased off a lot. I suspect that was more down to an inflamed inner ear than actual tinnitus itself as I have a nerve very close to my main vein, according to my ENT specialist who tried to pin it down for me a few years ago. At about 3 minutes 55, is how highly pitched mine is.
http://youtu.be/2mV-Z54fiBo
What is Tinnitus?
Simply, it’s a blooming nuisance. It’s loud, always there and drives me to distraction when I’m trying to sleep.
In acceptable terms, it’s a loud noise we feel in our ears, causing noise in our heads. The noise can be:
Buzzing, humming, grinding, hissing, whistling, beating, throbbing…. You get the picture?
There are different forms of Tinnitus that are more rare. The pulsatile kind that I used to also have, has an easier explanation with the real heartbeat to cause the feeling. Some people even have musical hallucinations, where they hear whole songs.
What causes Tinnitus?
Loud noise probably helps it along, and it’s the one thing everyone seems to think about with Tinnitus, but it’s only one factor. I’ve had very mild Tinnitus since my late teens. The worst thing about it, is knowing, that never again in your life, will you experience total silence. That’s actually quite distressing at times, though I have learned to live with it most of the time. I dread how bad it must be for those who have severe Tinnitus with extremely loud noise.
I can pin down the worst of my Tinnitus to the time the pulsing started in one ear. Those two years were horrific. I couldn’t sleep, my head felt fuzzy, and as if I were hearing through cotton wool. I went to doctor after doctor, appointment after appointment, always being told there was nothing wrong, then one day, I woke up, the ear popped and the worst of the pulsating disappeared. What I was left with, was an increased level of Tinnitus in my right ear, with the same level of my high pitched whistling Tinnitus in the left as before. My Tinnitus is now very lopsided.
I have some degree of hearing loss in my left ear, but it’s not too major. It’s certainly liveable with. For me, the worst Tinnitus was caused by inner ear damage.
The NHS says this about inner ear damage: “If part of the cochlea is damaged, it will stop sending information to parts of your brain. These areas of the brain will then actively ‘seek out’ signals from parts of the cochlea that still work. These signals are over-represented in the brain and cause the sounds of tinnitus.”
There are other things that could cause Tinnitus, such as earwax, infection, a perforated eardrum and yes, those dreadful loud noises as a child / young adult, when we thought we were invinceable.
How to Treat Tinnitus
Sadly, there isn’t really any way to treat it that’s actually helpful. The only thing I’ve found is distracting myself from it.
Although mine is there all the time, there are some points in the day when I’m more conscious of it than others.
If you’ve blocked ears etc, some medical intervention might help, but for many of us, it’s simply a case of managing the noise in our ears.
I notice the noise most when it’s quiet. The noise feels all encompassing then. It’s so loud, that in the absence of other noise, I can’t possibly imagine being able to hear anything else on to of the sound, yet at the drop of a pin, I can hear it through the other noise in my ears. I’m not quite sure how to describe that, but it’s very deceiving.
I’m getting used to my noise. Mine is annoying, but not debilitatingly so. I can blot some of it out. Bedtime is difficult as I have to sleep on the worst affected ear. Somehow, it helps to drown the noise out to lay on it. On really bad nights, especially if I have a cold, I tend to use music under my pillow, making a noise I can hear through the high pitched hissy singing tone.
The Future
Well, mine isn’t going to get any better. I really do have to learn to live with it, and be prepared for the time I could get worse.
I deliberately stay away from loud noises, in case it makes the problem even that teensy bit worse. If you invited me to a disco, I’d probably have ear plugs in, well hidden under my hair. I might have to ask you to repeat what you’re saying, but at least my ears won’t deteriorate any further from loud music.
If you have Tinnitus, take care of the noise around you. I suspect it really does matter.
If we’ve been on the internet for any length of time, we’ve all done it. Either we’ve said something we did not really mean, or someone has been mean to us, or called us names, or been downright nasty. We could have seen things we wished we’d never known existed and it can seriously put a damper on a day if something upsetting catches our eye. And that’s for us as adults. How much worse is it for children to be exposed to the same things, with their immature emotional state?
Today is safer internet day for 2015.
I know, I know, you’re all probably sighing and reaching for the big back button at the top of the screen, but being safer online is a responsibility of us all.
The Safer Internet Centre in the UK is co-ordinating help to promote the safe, responsible and positive use of technology for our children and young people.
The theme is: Let’s Create a Better Internet Together.
It’s celebrated by over a hundred countries, and supported by the European Commission, but what is it?
Raising Awareness
The day is mean to highlight positive uses of technology, to create a safer online community. The responsibility falls on us as parents, carers, teachers, social workers, and everyone else, to make the internet a safer place for our children.
Youth Leading The Way
According to Safer Internet, around 30% of 11-16 year olds have experienced some forms of unpleasant behaviour online in the last year, and also explains what they love about going on the internet.
A new film #Up2Us, created by schoolchildren tells us about their own experiences online and inspires young people to do something kind today.
Social Internet Day TV Today
Visit the online channel today at 11am to see Molly and Harvey from CBBC’s Friday Download Show. I’m hoping to get my kids to watch it on catchup after school.
Social Media
At 8am today, there was a mass tweet, using the hashtag #SID2015, with over 800 organisations agreeing to take part. That’s an awesome target. As a parent, I’ve watched my children talking to friends online who acted very unfriendly, even making fake accounts and using those to be nasty to classmates, anonymously of course. The upset it causes to the people they target is unnecessary and distressing for the children involved. It’s easy for us to say, ignore the haters and delete those accounts, but for children, that’s a very difficult thing to do.
I have to admit to being a little disappointed that none of my local schools seemed to take this on board. I think these are great ways to interact with our kids and share important learning, but as parents, we can bridge that gap where we can.
The internet is a wonderful and scary place to be. Let’s try and make it safer for our kids, by teaching them to be kind to each other online.
AT 8pm, Bars & Melody are taking over the Safer Internet Day Twitter Account for a question and answer session about why the safer internet day is important to them and what their views are on being kind and safe online. Join in the chat by using the hashtag #SIDTV.
Here’s the Safer Internet Day Programme for today.
Did you know our hearts beat around 100,000 times a day? That’s a lot of work for one muscle to do. It pumps around 23,000 litres of blood around our bodies in a day and just keeps on working away in the background. We’re rarely even aware that it’s doing anything at all.
Today’s the day to raise awareness. Wear as much red as you can and support the British Heart Foundation. If anyone asks why you’re wearing red, tell them it’s to raise awareness of looking after your heart.
February is heart month. It’s not surprising with Valentine’s Day in the wings, but how many of us take our hearts for granted? I know I do.
This month, show your heart some love. Sign up to the British Heat Foundation 10 Minute Challenge and celebrate by wearing something red, or discover how to keep your own heart happy and healthy.
There will be one simple challenge sent to your inbox each day for ten days. Each challenge takes a maximum of ten minutes to complete.
Take The British Heart Foundation Ten Minute Challenge
or
Take The British Heart Foundation Wordplace Ten Minute Challenge
On the website, are booklets and guides to help you improve the health of your heart, covering topics like moving, eating, quitting smoking, lowering stress, lowering cholesterol and blood pressure, as well as managing diabetes.
What are you waiting for?
If you’d like to donate to the British Heart Foundation, you can Text ‘RED’ to 70060 to donate £3 to help fund research.
Well, we’ve been at it for nearly a year now, this manipulating an unsteady person anywhere she needs to go. It’s been a full year since my mother had the first of two nasty infections, from which she’s never fully recovered.
What did change, was her brain. Damaged, and with significant vascular changes. Her physical strength and arthritis has deteriorated to such an extent, that she finds it difficult and painful to walk more than a very short distance. Over the last year, her short term memory had diminished significantly and her confidence to go out is totally shot.
From someone who ‘had’ to go out at least once a day, I’m lucky if I can get her out of the house once a month. It’s not good for her, and it’s not good for me being trapped in the house so much, only being able to leave her for spells that rivalled elderly dog ownership, as her insulin levels have to be checked regularly. She’s not safe with medication or her insulin on her own, and if she takes a hypo, there would be no-one to help her. She cannot manage her testing kit for herself.
Where I thought I’d have an easy time, was finding a wheelchair friendly car, that would also double as our family car. Both our cars are on the way out. The Discovery has given up the ghost and she can’t get up and into it now. anyway, so it would have to go, even if it was still behaving itself. It’s beside the point that it’s leaking water and the electrics are dodgy.
The man could fix it, but he’s never got the time and he won’t pay for someone else to do what he can do, so it’s at stalemate. I do love the Discovery, but if it were garage maintained, we’d need a whole new mortgage to keep it up.
We also have an old Vauxhall family car that has a fault somewhere that keeps draining the battery. The fix would likely cost far more than the car is worth. I do need a car that doesn’t need jumpstarted every second day, and I’d like to find the information I’m looking for online, but it’s harder than it looks. I did consider a Vauxhall Insignia, but they’re too low for her to get in and out of.
All I want is a car that will take a bog standard manual wheelchair, one that’s not too low so that I don’t break my back getting her in and out, and not too high, so that I have to lift her in either. Oh yes, I also need to fit 5 people in the car, and I don’t want to pay a fortune in road tax every year, nor pay a whack on customising a family car.
I also can’t face the Citreon Berlingo, nor the boxy cars. It’s my car. I know we all have different ideas of what is nice and what’s not, but I don’t want to saddle myself with what I see as a horrible looking car, just because I need one that fits a wheelchair in the boot. Selfish, maybe, but it’s my money, and I should be able to spend it on something that suits our family, not something we’re stuck with because there’s nothing else.
Can I find the information I need online? Perhaps I’m looking in the wrong places.
There’s a large proportion of the population who need wheelchairs, so I can’t believe how difficult it is to find out if a car boot can take one. You’d think with the money spent on advertising and lovely glossy brochures, that there would be something in them. A line somewhere that gave an indication of suitability for wheelchairs. Yes, I can see boot dimensions, but given the angle of some boots, they can look big enough in theory, but if it narrows in the wrong place, a wheelchair won’t fit in, and I’d like to carry some shopping at times too.
Before I go to look at a car, I want to know it will fit the wheelchair, otherwise I’m stuck to lugging the thing around with me and taking it out at every car dealership, which is a pretty daft way of going shopping. Why do they mention cup holders, bluetooth connection, seat warmers, and neglect to add a pretty basic feature? Perhaps wheelchairs just aren’t sexy enough, or, as I said before, I’m looking in the wrong places, but if I am, then shouldn’t it be easier to find the right places?
I will say though, that I do like the look of the hybrids. I’m tempted to look for a Toyota Prius, or the smaller ones along those lines. I did consider the Nissan Leaf, but the driving range would drive me round the bend, though guess what…I don’t know if they’re worth looking at, as I don’t know if a wheelchair will fit in the boot……..and I can’t be bothered going to find out.
I may just pick up a banger from the car mart to tide me over, because I can’t decide, and don’t have time to visit dozens of showrooms to find out.
Have a good day all, and hope you all stay safe in the windy weather.
This is so simple to do, and looks great on a table, or place setting. It’s something a little different and personalised for your Xmas day guests. Napkin folding is not something new, but we all appreciate the little touches that made Christmas Day that little bit more special.
Here’s how to do it for yourself.
Step 1
Take your regular napkin from a pack and lay it flat. Most napkins will come out of the pack ready to go, but just in case yours isn’t, you’ll need to fold it into a square.
Turn the napkin towards you, so it looks like a diamond shape, with the loose ends under your fingertips, like the image above.
Step 2
All you have to do is take one layer at a time and fold it upwards, so that it rests around half an inch or so from the top, and fold the line. Do this with all four layers until you have the same shape as below.
Step 3
Turn the napkin around. It should resemble a boat shape.
Step 4
The aim is to have the point shape at the centre of the bottom of the napkin. Fold the right hand side over to mid way on the opposite side and fold over. Do the same for the left hand side.
Step 5
The point shape at the bottom should be in the right place. When the sides are folded over, turn the napkin around again, and set it this way up.
Some people will stop here, but if you want to have the full effect, simply fold each layer back on itself, and tuck it into the one above.
Here they are. The personalised Christmas presents we made with the owners in mind. We hope they enjoy wearing them as much as we enjoyed making them. They’re all either rhodium plated brass as a base for the pendants, with only a couple that are sterling silver. The colours are all made by cold enamelling, or resin casting.
We love what we’ve achieved and each and every one in this post has gone to a Christmas home, as well as a few others that didn’t get in the photographs as they were still curing.
As a hobby, this is great, as the kids could be involved. Yes, it did mean taking some important steps to ensure they were safe with mixing the chemicals, and I wouldn’t do this with very young children, but for my older boys, it has been a great way to give christmas presents that actually mean something to them, and a handmade gift for the recipients, both at school and at home.
I’m actually really proud of what we achieved in such a short space of time. I love the drop heart pendant, so plan on ordering more of those blanks. We only had one, which was lovely when it was done.
Did you know that 180,000 people who are blind or partially sighted rarely leave home alone? At Guide Dogs we are committed to change this and we need your help to do so.
Besides training guide dogs, we offer other services that contribute to change the life of blind and sighted people in Scotland.
We are currently looking for volunteers in Aberdeen and the surrounding areas to fulfil central roles: PuppyWalkers and MyGuide.
Whether you have a couple of hours per week or are available full-time, your can make an enormous difference on people’s life.
Would you like to help us?
If you are free full-time, maybe you’d be interested in becoming a volunteer Puppy Walker?
A Puppy Walker is a challenging yet very rewarding role. You’ll be welcoming at home a puppy and helping them live different experiences that will give them the confidence to be a super guide dog in the near future.
Thanks to your help, this puppy will become a guide dog that will give to a blind or partially sighted the confidence to enjoy of the same freedom of movement as everyone else.
If you are working but have a couple of hours free, maybe you would to become a volunteer My Guide?
As My Guide you will be supporting a person who is blind or partially sighted for a couple of hours to go out. You’ll be receiving training and on-going support as you are carefully matched to a local person who is blind or partially sighted.
Your local staff are there to answer any questions or help as needed.
If you are interested in finding out more about the roles of Puppy Walker or My Guide, why not have a chat with Emma our Volunteer Consultant at the Edinburgh Mobility Team?
We look forward to hearing from you soon and see how you can help Guide Dogs make a real difference in Scotland.
So, last night was mostly about making our Christmas presents. I was talking to a Twitter friend who had bought some resin and made wee pendants, and it spurred me on to finish a project that was badly needing sorted. The fact that it’s also led to another addictive hobby and ashes rings, is neither here nor there.
Among that, I also made myself an ashes ring with a tiny portion of the ashes from my dog, who passed away a wee while ago. I tried that as a means of giving my boys and their siblings a keepsake of their birth mum.
I have a small vial of her ashes, and they all wanted a piece of jewellery. Looking online, it was clear that the prices were extortionate, and not necessarily appropriate for the kids as they are now. I really didn’t like the versions of ashes jewellery I saw that had flakes of the ashes very visible. It seemed a bit morbid to me.
Honestly, this ring does look better in real-life than it does in a picture.
Using a mix of resin, glitter and colour, I’ve come up with an alternative, using sterling silver as a base, and the colour added to the settings, whether they’re rings or pendants.
After a few disasters, I’ve finally got it sorted. This ring contains a tiny portion of my dog’s ashes, but I now know what I’m doing.
Yes, some of you might think it’s a little morbid to make jewellery out of pet ashes, or human ashes, but I think a piece of jewellery is a much nicer memory than an urn of ashes for children.
The girls are all getting ashes rings, and the boys will have cufflinks as a keepsake. Ok, they don’t look like glass, but they do look very pretty and the sparkles are gorgeous. I may add an extra layer of shine to the one above and see how that looks with a little dome on the ring, but it’s actually quite shiny as it is in daylight.
One of the girls wants red and one wants pink for their rings. I’m waiting for more blank rings and cufflink blanks to arrive so that I can make theirs, so I’ll post how they all turned out too.
I’ve been experimenting with pendants, so they will also be used as Christmas presents. When they’re all dried and had their chains added, I’ll post some pictures of those. All in all, it means we can make different people lots of different presents year on year. I’ll just have to keep tabs on what kind of design we give to each person.
Jewellery making could become far too addictive…….
We all know that being a parent is extremely rewarding. But there are many decisions, concerns and worries that often come in to play along the way – starting at birth and continuing right through to the teenage years.
This is why Parenting Across Scotland, a partnership of charities working together to provide a focus for issues and concerns affecting parents and families, has created resources that offer a ‘one-stop-shop’ for parents.
The charity has produced a range of six ‘top ten tips’ booklets for key stages in a child’s life – easy, digestible key pieces of information to help parents on their journey.
The resources aim to give parents key advice on topics such as sleep for babies, playing with your child, starting primary school, starting high school and teenagers.
Working in partnership with various organisations such as Sleep Scotland, Play Scotland and Healthy Respect, the charity’s tips provide a great starting point for any parent looking for a bit of friendly guidance.
Clare Simpson, Project Manager at Parenting Across Scotland, said: “We know that parents across the country all want to do what’s best for their children. Parenting doesn’t come with an instruction manual so parents are going to have concerns and questions at different stages of their child’s life – it’s only natural, and healthy.”
She added: “With so much information out there about what to do and what not to do it can be hugely overwhelming. With our ‘top tips’ resources we’ve drilled all this information down to focus on key pieces of bite size advice to make everything much simpler. We’ve chosen topics that we know from experience raise a lot of questions from parents.”
As well as offering advice the tips also offer reassurance.
One parent from Edinburgh who has used the resource for teenagers said: “Every time I hear my teenager’s bedroom door slam I think of the tips and remember ‘conflict is normal’ – it just gives me a minute to calm down.”
The full list of top tip topics include:
Sleep: babies and toddlers – covering routines, helping your child to settle themselves.
Starting primary school (also available in an ‘easy read’ version) – visiting the school, encouragement.
Starting high school – talking and listening, physical changes.
Child’s play – messy play, outdoor play.
Parenting teenagers – conflict, respecting their views.
Sex, relationships and teenagers – being truthful and honest, sharing stories.
The resources are completely free and can be downloaded from the Parenting Across Scotland website:
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